Nursery: The facts 

I started blogging because I was so anxious about returning to work after my maternity leave. Writing down how I felt and connecting with parents who had been through the same thing was a massive help and got me through those pretty awful first few weeks.

So for all those parents now going through the same thing I thought I would share our experience of nursery so far to reassure you that everything that you are thinking, feeling and doing is totally normal and to give you a heads up about things that are about to come your way.

Nursery The Facts

Here goes:

The guilt

You will feel guilt. It’s unavoidable but then I think you wouldn’t be much cop as a parent if you didn’t. You feel guilty for leaving them, guilty if you arrive to pick them up and they are the last child there, guilty if you forget that it’s the day they needed to bring a teddy bear in for the teddy bear’s bloody picnic… The guilt will get easier but will never go away.

I think if you accept the guilt (and it’s self imposed guilt, NOT guilt imposed by your mother in law, health visitor or smug rich yummy mummy ‘friend’) then things get much easier. Remember you are entitled to go back to work and pick up your career if you want to. If you’re like me you will have worked damn hard to get where you are. You had a baby, not a lobotomy.

The tears

Your child will probably cry. You will definitely cry. For me the first week was the worst. After spending every day together for nine months it was such a wrench not to see Willow all the time and I was constantly wondering what she was doing and if I was missing any of her milestones. Cue lots of tears in the car or toilets at work.

The great thing is that her nursery provide me with a diary of her activities every day – what she eats, when she naps (that bit is often blank), even the contents of her nappy. They also send me pictures so I feel like I know what she’s been doing and can comment or ask questions if I need to. Tip: Don’t call nursery to see if your child is ok because you are guaranteed to call the second they have just started crying which will set you off again.

General health

You will never be well again. Once your child sets foot in nursery they become instant germ carriers and will pass on particularly virulent strains of sickness, flu and a million other unidentifiable viruses. Also establish and be prepared to activate an emergency childcare plan at any moment because depending on nursery policy sometimes children are not allowed back into nursery for 7 days after being ill. 7 days!

The ‘extras’

You won’t just pay your nursery fees, oh no. There will always be extras. Some weekly activity that will cost you more dollar. Nursery photographs that come in bundles where there aren’t enough photos to go round the relatives so you have to buy two bundles then end up with spares (grrrr…) Nursery branded sweatshirts and t-shirts seems a great idea but you need to buy at least three of each item unless you want to wash them every night because your child will come home caked in mud, play dough, baked beans, paint, glitter (oh the glitter) every day.

Your child’s development

Nursery The Facts

They will come on in leaps and bounds. We were astonished at how much Willow’s development accelerated after she went to nursery. Her speech,

movement and interaction with people just blossomed and every day now she comes home and can say or do something new. Not that we left her to rock in front of the TV before but the amount of activities and stimulation nursery can provide is so much more than we could ever do in a day (and they give us inspiration for activities we can do at home).

I suspect we still have loads of nursery milestones to reach yet: head lice, biting ‘incidents’, the politics of birthday party invites. Life is a journey isn’t it?

I hope this helps. My overriding message is that it is all going to be ok. After a few weeks Willow couldn’t wait to get into nursery and start playing. Little miss independent waves me off before she even has her coat off (which pulls at the heart strings – see I told you would definitely cry). You will adjust to your new routine and the time that you spend with them becomes so precious that you really start to make every moment count and appreciate it all the more. If you are going through the return to work ‘thing’ at the moment and would like some support or reassurance please do leave a comment below.

Speak soon,
Kat x

17 Comments

  1. February 18, 2017 / 12:55 am

    I completely agree, I’ve worked with children for over 10 years now. Personally, because I have worked in a few nurseries I wouldn’t put my 2 in one. Daddy is a stay at home daddy whilst I am in university (modern family haha). I never used to tell the mums or dads if their child did something new, I just let them do it at home first and then the parents come in nursery so happy to tell us the news! 🙂 #sharingthebloglove

  2. February 19, 2017 / 6:52 pm

    My son had real trouble with settling at nursery and would cry every time I dropped him off for a couple of months. But he’s now nearly 3 and it’s been so worth it – he absolutely loves going, has made friends, and I really think they’ve encouraged him to develop in ways that I would never have managed at home. The germ factory bit is so true, but did eventually stop for us after a year and now it’s just the occasional cold / bug, rather than a constant one. And I don’t understand how I always manage to catch whatever it is, while my husband escapes! He must be blessed with a far better immune system than I am! Thanks for joining us at #SharingtheBlogLove

    • February 19, 2017 / 8:59 pm

      It can be really quite stressful at first but I hope parents just starting out in their nursery journey will read this and know that everything will be ok in the end (apart from the blimmin’ germs!) x

  3. February 22, 2017 / 11:50 am

    Both my daughters settled really well when they started preschool. I never had any tears from them and I am forever grateful of that. Holly only started in January and goes 1 morning a week, she loves it and already I can see how good it is for her. Thank you for joining us at #SharingtheBlogLove

  4. February 23, 2017 / 5:27 pm

    Although I’m leaving my baby with family when I go back to work, I know the guilt and the tears will be just the same!
    Great post #SharingtheBlogLove

    • February 23, 2017 / 8:13 pm

      I’m sure there will but it’s all perfectly normal and you will all be ok. It just takes a few weeks to get into your new routine that’s all xx

  5. February 23, 2017 / 9:00 pm

    I remember my daughter going to nursery, I was an emotional wreck. I think it made it worse because I wasn’t expecting to be an emotional wreck. It just hit me that day! My baby girl. Looking back I know how much she has benefitted from going to nursery though x
    #SharingTheBlogLove

    • February 23, 2017 / 9:41 pm

      They really do benefit and we pick up loads of tips for activities to do with Willow- things we would never have thought of! x

  6. February 24, 2017 / 8:55 pm

    This is a great post. We found with our eldest he really did come on in leaps and bounds, but with our youngest he clearly has immune system issues, we started him and during the 6 weeks he went he was ill the entire time, it got so bad he had conjunctivitis, a wicked head cold and a sickness bug all at the same time! Yeaaaah we pulled him out, promised to send him back in a year and two weeks later he was happy and healthy again. It’s true what they say, what is best for one child definitely isn’t for another! We are very fortunate we have schedules that allow this decision. Still, I will always highly recommend nursery! xx #sharingthebloglove

    • February 24, 2017 / 9:23 pm

      Oh no! Poor thing- nursery is def not the place to be if you’re prone to getting ill. Glad your schedules work for you though. Thanks for reading xx

  7. February 24, 2017 / 9:27 pm

    What a lovely post that I am sure will really help lots of parents with kids beginning nursery! Thank you for linking up to #ablogginggoodtime 🎉

  8. February 25, 2017 / 4:50 am

    You will never be well again is sooo true! Between teaching and childcare I couldn’t escape it with my first! #SharingtheBlogLove

  9. February 28, 2017 / 10:59 am

    Ah yes. It’s so hard. Really lovely, helpful post. My older two have been in childcare – a creche and a minder. To be honest they always seemed to have a ball, even moreso at creche (nursery) #sharingthebloglove

    • February 28, 2017 / 12:06 pm

      My daughter can’t wait to get rid of me as I drop her off – it’s bitter sweet really. I love how’re independence but am slowly losing my baby x

  10. susielhawes
    March 1, 2017 / 7:44 pm

    It’s true it takes time to adjust but does get easier. #SharingtheBlogLove

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